Memorial Day 2013

Easter, Christmas and Thanksgiving are festive holidays that remind us of family and faith.  Memorial Day, the 4th of July and Veteran’s Day are celebrations of our past that have led to our present and give us a sense of history, pride in our country and hope for a better tomorrow.

As Memorial Day approaches and May 27th arrives, take a break from the bustle of events that kick-off the Summer season and spend some time reflecting on how this holiday came about and the sacrifices that so many have endured to make it possible.

Recently I have written stories about two Medal of Honor recipients.  Their stories are inspiring, sobering and bear on the very values that make our country great.  “USS MICHAEL MURPHY (DDG-112) COMES OF AGE,” is the story of a young NAVY SEAL, Lt. jg from Patchogue, L.I. and the Guided Missile Destroyer named for him. Michael perished in a fire-fight in Afghanistan when he left cover to radio for assistance as his four-man team, greatly outnumbered, fought off the enemy force.  Mortally wounded his last words to the base were, “Thank You!”

The account was published, in “THE TIN CAN SAILOR,” in the April-May-June edition and used here with permission, copyright Tin Can Sailors, Inc.  Michael’s Dad, Dan Murphy, sent a thank you note informing me that the article will find a home at the NAVY SEAL MUSEUM in Fort Pierce, Florida.  What an honor!

Please follow the link to read about Michael and the proud ship named for him. Also included is a haunting picture that appeared on FaceBook some time ago.

The second story is about Medal of Honor recipient Captain Thomas Hudner, retired.  He pancaked his Navy Corsair on snow covered mountainous terrain in a vain attempt to rescue his wing man downed in combat during an airstrike over the Chosen Reservoir during the Korean war.  As Tom and a Rescue Helicopter pilot labored to free downed pilot Ensign Jesse Brown from his crumpled Corsair, Jesse’s last words to Tom Hudner were to his wife, “Tell Daisy I love her!”

Next month the story of Thomas Hudner and the USS THOMAS HUDNER (DDG- 116) now under construction at the Bath Iron Works in Bath Maine will be published in “Andover, the magazine of Phillips Academy.”  I will forward it later this Summer

God Bless America!  And have a wonderful holiday weekend.

Best,

George

 

Link to article:

Tin Can Sailor Toast-Michael Murphy St. Patricks Day 2013

Peace, Perps and Panty Raids

Apples and trees and where they fall, I never paid much attention.  I’ll be 81 soon, and I’m still trying to sort out four generations of letters, papers, pictures and such.  Every time I get into it, something brings me up short.  This time a newspaper article fell from a folder that my parents kept, with notes and reminders for my brother Ken and me (more like a volume).  So many memories!!

The piece was by H.I. Phillips, the renowned journalist for The New York World Telegram and Sun, for his column, The Sun Dial.  It chronicles an exchange between father and son around the time of Ike’s election in the early 50’s.

I read and reread the column, a back and forth about college grades and why?  The scenario is familiar to a lot of us.  The father’s reply is classic in more ways than one.  Enjoy the excerpt:

Letter from a college boy to his father…

Dear Dad:

Well, I guess you will be a little disappointed over my marks this term, but I am trying very hard and am two grades ahead of a lot of boys in my class.  I flunked in Advanced Wall Scaling, but passed in elemental Transom Research and will not have to take the course in Door Battering all over again next year.  I am studying very hard, especially nights.  Two nights this week, I studied so hard I sprained a leg on a fire escape and got hit over the head by a couple of coeds for being too slow climbing into their room.  But do not worry.  All I need is one more bra to graduate.

Love,

Donald

The reply…

Dear Son:

Your Mother and I are, of course disappointed that you have not done better in the studies prescribed for classrooms.  However, these are strange times, and I suppose a boy has a right to be just as crazy as adults. I can see that a bad example has been set for you at high places.  The president of the United States has been trying to scare the pants off everybody, the Treasury Department has been snatching our shirts and scores of politicians have been giving justice the big slip.  Looking at the picture you might excusably get the idea that there was a future in such behavior.

I do not approve of your conduct at all, but must admit in a world in which grownups are engrossed in perfecting instruments of manslaughter, ultimatum hurling, singing hymns of hate, leering at honesty, hooting standards of decency, cheating on their own security programs, and crashing through red lights, a little panty and bra snatching can be accepted as a comparatively minor offense.  If nothing more than a few undies were being brazenly seized by some of our more notable adults it would be a break.  Maybe youth is discovering a real solution to the world problem of peace and war.  It is quite possible if we could get all the influential adults of all nations to stop what they are doing now and begin shinnying up dormitory walls and through transoms with demands for nothing more than an old girdle there would be an immediate improvement in the global situation.

However, I am not certain of anything.  Events and trends baffle me. Observing the general college scene, all I can hope is that you show an occasional flash of intelligence and remember there is no genuine future in idiocy.

Love,

Dad

There is a universal quality to this dialogue between father and son that transcends the narrative and leads to a simple and lasting truth!!!

Why I’m reading this for the first time after 60 years, give or take, is not as much of a mystery to me as one might think.  My dad was a master of apocryphal to make a point, occasionally misplaced!  Son Graham might see some of him in this also.  Let’s hope it’s just a good read for his sons: Graham, Bradley, and Duncan with a heads– up for their sister Tory.

Apples and trees!!

George S.K. Rider

 

Enough Already! Let Spring Begin!

Today the cold winter days seem far away.  But it’s been a long slog here in Essex.  Following are some reflections from earlier this month when we were snowed in… yet again.  Let’s hope that was the last gasp of old man winter!!

March 8, 2013:  Borrowing words from a traditional Yale Song, Bright College Years… “The seasons come, the seasons go, the earth is green or white with snow!”  Enough already yet!!  The GD weather forecasters missed by more than a couple of inches and several hours.  For the first time in my life I found myself rooting for Al Gore!

No lights or heat, the unpredicted heavy snow falling in sheets with heavy flakes, which made looking out the den window another wondrous winter gaze!  It began snowing during the night, toes out of bed at 5:30AM and a quick peek out plus the flashlight on the outdoor thermometer was proof enough that the pretty ladies and toothy young bucks on the TV spouting the forecast had missed it again!

At least the electricity was still on!  The tubs hadn’t quite been filled yet.  Reveille!  Reveille!  Dorothy and cat Marybeth were soon on deck.  Early breakfast!  What a pretty sight as the snow pelted down, swirled by an occasional gust out of the NE.  It all stuck.

The second cup of coffee was half way down.  The lights blinked once and went off, followed by a blank TV screen.  The Internet connection stopped. We were in for it!  It was a given.  I would not be reading to the fourth-graders today, one of my favorite weekly volunteer activities.

The house chilled, more sweaters and socks, reading and Sudoku replaced dial twiddling.  By 9AM the snow was just under a foot, in many places piling up on top of drifts not yet melted from the recent blizzard.  The temperature inside was in free fall down from 52, raw and hand-cold.

Thank God for propane, hot coffee, and warm chowder and a grilled cheese later at lunch.

Dorothy mused, “Remember the Easter adventure with Graham and Jenny when they were little with, Razzie and Sue (our wonderful poodles)?”   The bustle of packing, boarding the Cuttysark, our 26’ Chris Craft skiff, and crossing the bay to La Casa Del Perro, the family summer cottage, put to bed in November, soundly asleep for the winter.  Several times I approached our dock.  The mooring posts were veering at angles every which way caused by the winter ice.  They resembled an old timer’s front teeth when he smiled.  I sent young Graham from the bow gingerly up onto to the dock, looking more like a roller coaster than a level platform.

The first order of business was to awaken the house from its winter hibernation.  I opened the electric panel in a back bedroom and began by clicking on the master switch, one by one engaging each of the circuit breakers.  Step 2, I turned on the two large wall heaters in the living room, opened the propane tank and lit the pilot lights on the kitchen stove, and bent down and lighted the oven with a long match.  Dorothy and the kids were busy bringing provisions and bags of extra clothing from the dock.  I opened the chimney flu, laid a fire and lit it, and then secured the boat for the night using the anchor to keep her away from the dock – none of the poles seemed up to the task.  The final chore was to fill a large garbage can with buckets of water from the bay needed to flush the toilet.  The water had not yet been turned on.

The weatherman fooled us.  It would not be the first time, nor the last!  Just after dinner the lights went out.  Dorothy lit several candles and the thermometer in the kitchen started downhill.  Graham and Jen had taken Razz and Sue for a long walk and filled the wagon with driftwood from the beach.  They arrived back just before the lights went off. Dinner consisted of hot homemade chowder and Mom’s prizewinning stew with apple pie and ice cream for desert.  The dogs even had second helpings.

The temperature continued down into the twenties.  Dorothy and I pushed three couches in a tight semi-circle close by the roaring fire, emptied the blanket chest and brought the bedding from three bedrooms to cover the couches.  I stoked the fire.  Graham and Jenny each with their dog, cuddled in sleeping bags beneath two extra blankets.  Twice during the night I woke and put more wood on the fire.  The temperature in the kitchen was 17 degrees when we got up in the morning.  It was so cold overnight that the glass butter dish froze and cracked in two places.  More wood and a warmer day!  Making memories at times isn’t what it’s cracked up to be.  The week was downhill from the first night as the weather cooperated, and we returned well-rested and none the worse for wear.

The highlight for the kids was the Easter egg hunt on Sunday.  We boiled twenty eggs Saturday afternoon and colored and decorated them.  I got up at the crack of dawn and hid them around the outside of the house, down by the dock, under an overturned rowboat, the boardwalk and my cousin’s house.  Graham and Jenny were turned loose after breakfast and retrieved all but two in slightly over an hour.  Those were never recovered.

Back to 22 Curiosity Lane and the present! I  was swiveling around on my den/office chair from one window to the other gazing absentmindedly at the snow that was rapidly accumulating.  How wrong was the forecast?  Plenty!!

There, all of a sudden, I looked out the window out of the window facing the driveway that leads to cul-de-sac, an apparition appeared; it was Dorothy, trudging a distance to retrieve the mail.

She was clad in a bright yellow foul-weather jacket, with the hood half way up, partially covering a maroon plaid scarf tied around her head and under her chin like a babushka. Dorothy might have been an actress auditioning for the part of Ozark Annie in a Hollywood adventure film!  But she at least was braving the elements.  I was warmly ensconced inside looking out!

The mailbox produced three bills, a number of catalogues, no money and a great opportunity to admire my intrepid wife at work.  She next filled several bird feeders and entered the front door, pink cheeks and ready for a cup of tea.

The beach story took on added significance as we reflected on the approach of our 50th anniversary and that saga nearly four decades ago!!

We talked more about the big 50. I replied, somewhat in jest, “Dear, I have it all planned. To celebrate our second honeymoon and the 50th, as good Christians and aging WASPs, we’ll fly to Rome with a stop at the Vatican, journey to Tel Aviv and visit the Holy Land, and wind up tracing our roots with a walking tour of the British Isles starting in England, on up through Scotland, winding up taking in Northern and Southern Ireland, ending with several pints in Dublin and returning home first class on the QE2. How’s that sound!!!”

My beloved replied: “Dear, you’re dreaming!  You’re never dull!  You can’t even make it to the bathroom without the sounds of your joints squeaking.  Nice thought, but we’d also need to hit the next Power Ball!”

We’ve got a year plus to plan.  Maybe I’ll enter Annie in the Iditarod, put down a few quid on her and find a warm pub in Anchorage, kick back and watch it on TV!!

Happy Spring everyone.  It couldn’t get here soon enough!

St. Patrick’s Eve Tragedy 1956

 

Some stories, buried in time, cry out to be told.  “The St. Patrick’s Eve Tragedy 1956” is one of them.

In late October 2007, daughter Jenny and I were attending an alumni council meeting at our mutual alma mater Phillips Academy, Andover.  After dinner she arrived at my table with a young man in tow.

“Dad, meet Harry Flynn.  I think you were in the Navy with his dad.”

Indeed I was.  We were roommates aboard the USS Preston (DD 795) in 1955.  I had not spoken with Harry Sr. in 52 years.  Next morning, between meetings, Harry called his father and handed me the phone.  The years vanished as we caught up. What a warm feeling watching our kids talking as we spoke.

As a result of that chance encounter, we began to swap stories.  One of his particularly caught my attention, “Safe Harbor – Not,” which described the harrowing events of St. Patrick’s Eve 1956 in Newport Harbor, Rhode Island.

Months earlier, another chance encounter at the 19th Hole Bar of our country club on Long Island also turned to that same ill-fated day.  Doc Petit, a neighbor, had also been home ported in Newport.  Doc, then a Medical Corpsman aboard the Destroyer Tender, Cascade (AD 16), had also witnessed the same terrifying events.

Their stories triggered my own memories.  I couldn’t get the events of that night out of my head; how two old friends from different parts of my life had both been there in Newport, at the scene of the tragedy; how I had almost been there with them; why all three of us had been spared, while our fellow shipmates hadn’t been nearly as lucky.  I spent days researching what happened, tracking down long forgotten newspaper articles from the Newport library and piecing together events.

*     *     *

St. Patrick’s Day has come to be known for parades, parties and celebration.  For four brave Navy men, the date in 1956 was just the opposite.

My friend Harry had been attached to the Commodore’s staff headquartered on the USS Irwin, temporarily based in Newport.  That night, Harry had the staff watch. “A lot of people had already left the ship on liberty,” he recalled.  “We were nested together, four Fletcher-class destroyers, 21 hundred tons of seagoing greyhounds.  I was waiting for my fiancée and her cousin to visit for supper, by launch, return and drive back to Boston.

“We had arrived from the Charleston Navy Shipyard in Boston after our overhaul.  A ship just out of the yard is always in a state of flux.  New people and old hands are getting familiar with or reviewing their duties.  This time everything worked against us.”  Adding to the problem, a number of senior officers were not aboard the ships at that time, leaving their junior counterparts in charge.

Harry said that the ship’s crew could tell a storm was coming, but storms in Newport in February weren’t exactly headline news.  As they rounded Nantucket Light on the trip from Boston, the hatch above Harry’s bunk sprang open and water from the bow flooded the sleeping area.  He leapt up and headed topside.

The storm came up quickly and violently.  The winds howled, and snow turned into blizzard with 70 mile an hour winds overnight.

In Harry’s words: “Storms aren’t unusual, but they’re never fun.  We sent the liberty launch in at four o’clock (1600 hours).  The wind had come up and the trip was very rough.  When the boat crew returned for another trip, the 40-foot launch landed between the sterns of the Preston and the Irwin.  I went to the Commodore, my boss, and suggested he decide when to cease boating.  It was getting very rough out there.  He said to stop ‘em after the next boat returns.  I went to the stern of the Irwin where the launch was tying up.”

Meanwhile, crewman Kenneth R. Kane, a fireman rate from New York City, was part of the crew manning the 40-foot motor launch that was being moved to a more sheltered position behind the nest of four destroyers tied together and moored to a buoy.  A gust of wind ripped through the air, tossing the launch so high on the waves that its keel could be seen from the destroyer deck.

As the launch neared the USS Preston, two of the boat crew jumped across to board the destroyer.  When Kane tried to follow, he fell into the freezing water.  The men aboard the ship yelled to throw him a line, but a rope could not be found.  Suddenly, the launch heaved high on another huge wave and crashed down on Kane likely breaking his back.  Crewmen from the Preston scrambled down and grabbed Kane by his life jacket, but he was torn from their grasp when a strap broke.  He slipped through the jacket and disappeared into the churning water, leaving the sailors holding the empty jacket.  The  motor launch drifted away.

Officers aboard the Preston quickly ordered out a whaleboat to aid in the rescue, with five brave men aboard.  Two of them, Lt.jg Juergens and Reese B. Kingsmore, boarded the 40-foot motor launch, restarted its engine and returned to the Preston.

The others – Moore, Britton and Hutchinson – stayed in the whaleboat and kept up a vain search for the missing Kane.  Moore served as coxswain, although that was not his normal duty.  Before he left the Preston, he told shipmates he was going along “to make sure everything went right.”

As Harry recalled: “The men set out into the now swirling snow.  The wind had come up with a wild ferocity and the heavy snowfall limited vision to a few feet from the nest.  I reported back to the Commodore who wanted me to stay on the situation and report to him.  There wasn’t much to report for some time.  I stayed in the Ward Room, with an Ensign I didn’t know too well and his girlfriend aboard for a visit.  The storm was wicked that night and we were constantly worrying about the nest breaking up or drifting.”

Tragically, Harry was right to worry.  My friend and bar mate from Long Island, Doc Petit, also in the harbor that night, witnessed the second, somber part of the story: “As dawn broke on St. Patrick’s Day, the three-man crew of the Cascade’s Gig (another whaleboat) and I got underway and started to search for the boat from the Preston.”  Doc and his mates traveled down the bay, looking for the brave men who had willingly put their lives on the line for another.

One of Doc’s crew finally spotted the whaleboat, washed up on the shore of the Douglas Estate, on Ocean Drive, near the mouth of the harbor.  As they approached, they found the bodies of Moore, Britton and Hutchinson, “their cherry red faces frozen… in death.”  The three valiant sailors had died from exposure while searching for Kane.  Their 26-footer was washed ashore, miles downstream.   The Newport Daily News later reported it was the worst storm since possibly 1938.

*      *      *

 “George!  George!  Wake up. Deanie Gilmore just called to see if you were all right.”  She had heard on the radio that there had been a terrible accident aboard the Preston.  Mother was standing next to my bed.

I woke up from a sound sleep at my parents’ house in Brightwaters, Long Island.  I was home on a 72-hour pass from my new ship, the USS Abbot (DD 629), having recently transferred from the USS Preston.  Both ships had been undergoing updates and repairs at the Charleston Navy Ship Yard in Boston.  The Preston and the three other ships in her Division were scheduled to leave for the West coast to join the 7th Fleet for assignment in the Pacific.  The Abbot was part of the 6th Fleet and would remain in the Atlantic with the 3 remaining destroyers in our division, operating out of Newport, RI.

I knew instinctively that some of the men in my old division had to be involved.  I spent most of the morning trying to contact the base for more information.  The weather was God-awful.  The Abbot was due to get underway from Boston early Monday.  I couldn’t take the chance of getting stuck in Newport and decided against my first impulse to go there immediately.  I sent a telegram to the Captain of the Preston offering my prayers and any help I could be, still not knowing the details of the tragedy.

As the day progressed, the story unfolded.  Sketchy details began to appear on the radio and TV.  I finally got through to the office of the Base Commander.  The Duty Officer confirmed the loss of four sailors, and the fact that, indeed, three of the four had perished in the Preston’s whaleboat, trying to rescue the sailor from the Irwin.

Sometime in the early afternoon, the names of the sailors were released.  I tuned in to the news on the radio.  My heart sank as the commentator read the names: Boatswain’s Mate 2, C. Robert C. Moore of Marked Tree, Ark, Seaman Donald Britton of Bayville, NJ, and Seaman Gary C. Hutchinson of Holland, Ohio. I had been their Division Officer.

I felt helpless.  My thoughts turned to the three men aboard the whaleboat.  I knew R.C. Moore the best.  He was a rangy, easy- going southerner, with a great sense of humor, who took his responsibilities to heart.  He was popular with officers and crew alike.  R.C. had taken me under his wing when I reported aboard, as a young inexperienced Ensign.

I thought of Britton and Hutchison – two squared away seamen whose promise was yet to be fulfilled.  The Deck Force is the training ground from which other activities aboard staff their personnel.  They were both headed for greater responsibilities.

The whaleboat in which the men perished had been my responsibility while I was aboard. During ASW exercises, we used that same boat to retrieve spent torpedoes and return them to the subs. I had been the Boat Officer.

It had been decades since I had thought of them, and their courage.  Time has not diminished the memory of their heroics.  I can’t help but think it’s no coincidence that I ran into Harry and Doc, and pieced together again the story of that night.  For me, it’s a stark reminder of the need to honor and remember the sacrifice of those who give their lives for another, and a reminder of how important it is to make people aware of those four brave men.

Some stories, buried in history, cry out to be told. “The St. Patrick’s Eve Tragedy 1956” is one of them.  As you celebrate the holiday this weekend, take time out to remember these heroes.

– George S.K. Rider

Paradise North!

SNow Storm essex

Musings on the recent Snowpocalyspe…

A place for every season! 9:30 AM, the day after the historic snow storm ended, the sparkling white wonderland is pristine under a bright blue sky and brilliant sun rising, accentuating the trees shadows crisscrossing the landscape covered by a three and a half foot blanket of pure fluffy white snow. Drifts in places top five feet.

Our street in Essex ends in a cul-de-sac. The bows of the fir trees on the island in the middle are all drooping. Heavy with their white blankets, they stand out tall and majestic against the sapphire blue backdrop. The snow is way too deep for the squirrels. The quiet that comes after storms like this is interrupted occasionally by the chirp of a hungry bird. Trees in the woods on either the side and back of our house are etched in white, and low lying bushes bend over with the weight of the snow.

Son Graham and family live at the bottom of the cul-de-sac, we are next door. Both houses are deep into the pie shaped lots. Early in the storm, a large tree fell blocking all traffic from the entrance road. No snowplows or traffic of any sort have disturbed the Curry and Ives-like scene.

Days like this are made for grandchildren. Our four will have no trouble sleeping again tonight.

Graham has just started now blowing our older neighbors’ driveways. He did ours first. What a great day!!

Once Upon a Blizzard Redux!!!!

Hunkered down in Essex with at least 5 inches of snow piling up on the ground outside… and memories of being stranded by myself on Fire Island in an even worse squall a few years ago.  I first posted the following in 2010 and want to share it again tonight.  Send me your storm stories, I’d love to include them here on Red Rider’s Ramblings.  Stay warm and safe, George

On March 11, 1888, the snow began to fall.  The wind picked up.  The blizzard lasted four days.  My grandfather was 10 years old at the time, trapped in his farmhouse with his mother and sister.  I read his account of the harrowing storm, as I was experiencing my own wild winter storm more than a century later in March of 2005…

Once Upon a Blizzard

As usual they were right, my wife, Dorothy, and my grown kids, Graham and Jenny.  I’m stubborn, and I admit it!

“Be careful, Dad, you’re not 25 anymore.”  Closer to 73 more like it.  “George, if you fall… the new hip… this time of year there’s no one around to help you.”  “The weather can be awful in March!  Totally unpredictable.”

“I’m going anyway,” I barked back at them.

I had put this trip off twice to accommodate my platoon of MD’s.  Now it was my time!  Nothing comes between me and my beach.

Plus, I’d recently uncovered a latent interest.  I’d discovered I loved to write, and I had ideas for two essays, what better place than our little cottage on Fire Island to develop them?

“Fine, have it your way,” my wife relented.  “But take your cell phone at least, and make sure to keep it charged!”

Little did I know, that in a few days, I’d be caught in a major ice storm, out of food, cold and alone, wishing for once I’d listened.

Five generations in our family have enjoyed the rustic beauty, the serenity, the rejuvenating powers and quality of life that Fire Island affords.

My grandfather’s first house there was built in the town of Lonelyville in 1910.  He was a very successful doctor and writer, who had published two books, including one that had been made into a movie written by William Faulkner and starring a young Mickey Rooney.   Gramp and his wife had two daughters.  Each married and had two sons.  The 1938 hurricane carried the original house to sea, only the fireplace bricks and stones remaining.  They rebuilt near the site in 1939 and named the house “La Casa del Perro.”  (House of the dog, after their perennial pack of Labrador retrievers.)  I was seven years old, my brother Ken was five.  Our cousin, Tony Furgueson, was three; his brother, Mike, was still an infant.  The third generation produced 12 great-grandchildren, and, so far, they’ve added 18 great-great-grandchildren.  (With 2 more added since I originally wrote this piece!)

One house became four.  “La Casa del Perro” is now nestled inland behind three bay front cottages, all owned by various family members.  Lonelyville and the Great South Bay have always held me in a vise-like grip that tightens as the years go by.  When I’m on the island, a calm comes over me that’s difficult to explain.

Saturday, March 5, 2005, 10:10a.m.: Rosie, our Heinz 57 dog, and I were sitting alone on the top deck of the Fire Island ferry to Fair Harbor, facing aft watching the sun reflecting off the shimmering ripples and dancing across the water.  The gentle breeze made my skin tingle.  The temperature was in the mid-40’s, as the mainland fell away in our wake.

Like settling into your favorite chair after a great meal, all tensions fading, warm thoughts of our late winter writing expedition became the focus.  We landed and walked the third of a mile east to Lonelyville.  Rosie on her leash, the supplies packed in two L.L. bean canvas bags secured to the two-wheel cart trundled behind me.

I had shopped for my own supplies (my wife, Dorothy, was busy and still more than a little miffed at me for insisting on going to the beach alone so early in the season).  Un-chaperoned, I had skipped all dietary restraints, heading straight for the frozen pizza, frozen lasagna, cheese crackers, English muffins, Entemann’s hot cross buns and some canine treats for Rosie.  Just the way I liked it, not a fresh fruit or vegetable in sight.

Patches of unmelted snow, graying and dirty, were still evident in shady spots left over from an earlier storm.

I opened the back door of the house, last closed in late December after a three-day visit.  The air inside was dank and heavy, the shades drawn.  The round, red and white thermometer in the living room registered 29 degrees.  My new hip ached from the long walk and the biting cold.

The wake-up routine: Flip on the master switch in the electric panel box and engage the circuit breakers; turn on the wall heaters and chemical radiators; turn the stove on, the four top burners and the oven and open the oven door; hang blankets to block the front hall and stair well.  The house was slowly waking from its hibernation!

Rosie and I walked down to the ocean.  I sat on a bench overlooking the beach, as she moved in and out of clumps of beach grass, only her tail showing.  The sun was warm. Could spring be coming early?  I looked west to the lighthouse, then east to the jetties of Ocean Beach and beyond.  There were no other people or dogs as far as I could see.  For a moment, the feeling of invincibility the beach always gave me wavered.  I pulled out the cell phone and decided to give home a call.  No luck.  Despite Dorothy’s reminder, I’d accidentally let the battery run dead.

It was a livable, 55 degrees inside, when we got back to the house.  A quick check with the high command (I used the house phone.)  “Are you having fun?  Is Rosie eating?  They say it may snow later in the week.  Be careful!  Call me later!”  The earlier admonitions repeated.

I set up shop in the living room overlooking the bay and began to write.

Sunday and Monday, March 6, 7 and 8, the pattern was the same: up early, writing until lunch, then a walk to the beach and more writing.

That night, I checked the weather on Channel 5.  The forecast had changed; snow was now predicted to start tomorrow.  The weatherman also warned ominously of high winds.  I’ll shoot for the 1:55pm boat back home the next day, I told myself.  We should be on our way in plenty of time to avoid the storm.

The next morning, I packed my bags, checked the house for the last time and started for Fair Harbor, where we would board the ferry back to the mainland.  Rosie and I got 200 yards or so from the house when the gray sky suddenly turned Wizard of Oz black.  The wind changed direction on a dime – S.S.W. to N.N.E.  For a few moments, a large calm area appeared between the bay in front of our house and West Island, about a half mile north.

The water was flat as a mill pond, eerily reflecting a single shaft of light that fought its way through the low clouds.

The wind picked up from the North.  Sporadic gusts soon became a steady blast.  The mill pond disappeared, replaced swiftly by rolling white-capped waves that began to pummel the shore line.  The drizzle that had started earlier turned to rain.  Rosie was shaking, never more than a few feet from me.  We had gone only a short distance.  I stopped.  The rain changed to sleet and stung my face.  The sleet quickly became hail.  I tried to take a few steps forward, but slipped and nearly lost my footing.  My hip throbbed.  I edged over to the side of the boardwalk and held on to the base of a telephone pole to steady myself and rest.

Decision time: Maybe I should have paid more attention.  Dorothy’s warnings rang in my ears.  I realized then, Rosie and I couldn’t make it to the ferry dock.  The walk was too icy, the distance to the boat too far.  We retreated back to the house we had vacated moments before and threw the switches back on.  I began to have second thoughts.  Why didn’t I go home yesterday as planned?  Why did I even come on this trip?  And, then, other, more troubling concerns came to mind.  What if the electricity goes out?  What if I fall?  Who’ll come and get me?  Who’ll even know?

I called home again.  Dorothy was relieved with my decision not to try and make it out.  Rosie and I had enough food for one more day.

The snow and ice were now blowing parallel to the ground, rushing inland past the windows on the east and west sides of the house.  The picture window was icing as the snow hit the warm pane, melted and immediately froze.  The temperature outside dropped forty degrees in three hours.  The temperature inside was holding at a comfortable 68 degrees.  I crossed my fingers and hoped the electricity would stay on and the temperature would stay that way.

The wind was howling, blowing so hard that last year’s bull-rushes were blown flat, their puffy maroon-brown tasseled tops bobbing up and down repeatedly touching the ground, now rapidly turning white.  The house shook so hard that the blankets I had hung to cover the hall entrance and stairwell flapped back and forth.

TV programming was interrupted with storm updates.  I looked at the window.  No lights on the bay or in any of the houses around me for miles.

A few hours later, early evening, Rosie was asleep on the well-cushioned wicker chair beside me, a warm throw around her, the edges tucked in loosely, with just her nose showing.  My writing was complete.  Dinner was over.  One hot cross bun left for breakfast and a tin of dog food for Rosie, then our supplies would run out.

The book Gramp wrote about his colorful life, “Doctor On a Bicycle,” was on a side table.  I hadn’t read it cover to cover since my Navy days, back in the late 50’s.  I picked it up.  The first chapter, The Keel is Laid, had always been my favorite.  It recounts surviving the blizzard of 1888 as a 10-year old, stranded with his sister and widowed mother on their remote farm in Patchogue, a few miles from where I grew up and now live, on the mainland:

Chapter 1, The Keel is Laid from “Doctor On a Bicycle” by Dr. George S. King

“…It began softly on a Sunday in March – toward noon with little more than a thin gray drizzle.  Three of us were at home, my widowed mother, my younger sister, Lotta, and I.  My older sister, Alda, then 16, had gone to spend the night with a girlfriend.

“The morning had been clear, but when the rain began to fall, I heaped up some cordwood at the wood pile.  Late afternoon in the waning light, I could see that the drizzle had become mixed with large, wet flakes of snow.  For a time, I watched idly through the window pane, conscious of the comfort and warmth within.  After a bit, I went outside and did my chores – fed the chickens, shut the chicken house and brought in a supply of coal and wood.  Then we had supper.

“During the evening, the mercury plummeted as the wind howled out of the North.  Lotta and I went to bed, but mother stayed awake listening to the blasts of wind that leaned hard against the house.”

I thought about their lives, no TV, no storm updates, no electricity, no telephone, and no one to check in with, just the three of them.

“During the night, the driven snow penetrated and drifted through cracks in the window frame.  It covered my bed and spilled over onto the floor.  In the morning, we wasted no time getting downstairs to the warm living room.  I quickly made the kitchen fire.  Then we found that a mounting snow drift had walled shut the west door of the kitchen, cutting our way off to the well. Undaunted, we turned to the east kitchen window, scooped up a wash boiler full of snow and set it on the stove to melt.  After breakfast, we caulked the windows in my room to prevent snow from drifting in.”

Our modern double pane windows and insulation would have come in handy.

“Under Mother’s calm guidance, we worked smoothly and without panic, although we knew this was certainly a storm the like of which we had never seen before.  During the day, the wind increased in volume.  To keep the house warm, we shut off all the rooms except the kitchen and living room in which we had a large self-feeding coal stove with a heater pipe through the ceiling into Mother’s bedroom, the only heated room on the second floor.  So fierce did the wind become that the carpet in the living room rose in billows.

“We moved the living room furniture to the most protected corner, behind the stove.  Then with clothes horses and clotheslines, we draped off the corner and covered the carpet with rugs from other rooms to conserve heat.”

My reading was interrupted by flapping, banging sounds outside. I turned on the outside flood light.  At first, I couldn’t figure it out.  Pieces of wood were flying by the kitchen mixed with the snow and crashing into the boardwalk 15 feet away from the house.  I finally realized what was happening.  The lattice-work panels I had painstakingly nailed to the pilings that support the house were being torn apart, strip by strip, by the savage wind, propelling the slats like projectiles.  There was nothing I could do about it.  I went back and continued to read.  I became a little edgy.  The lights blinked off and on.

“One perilous trip to feed the chickens a pan of hot corn, the coop almost buried beneath a large drift.  They huddled together and appeared quite happy.  Indeed, when I next saw them three days later, the little flock were none the worse the wear for their confinement.

But as I turned from the coop for the trip back to the house, the going was all but impossible.  I was walking straight into the teeth of the storm.  I made the woodshed and rested.  The space between the shed and the summer kitchen formed a veritable wind tunnel, and the ground was a glaze of ice, swept clean of snow.

“The wire clothesline connecting the wood shed to the kitchen provided enough guidance to allow me to inch my way to the safety of the kitchen.  Mother reached out and clutched my hand and together we entered the house, securing the door.  Three days passed before it was opened again.

“We inventoried the food…”

Hard to imagine!  There were no “Big Ben’s” or “A&P’s,” not even a “Stop ‘n Shop” back then.

A barrel of flour, half a barrel of sugar, a firkin of butter, a big wedge of cheese and a barrel of newly salted pork.  From the beams of the back kitchen hung sacks of homemade sausage, fresh hams well salted, a couple of smoked hams and several strips of bacon.

“On the floor stood crocks of pickles, chow chow laid the preceding fall, bags of home-cured dried apples, blackberries and dried corn – all the output of one woman’s hands.  Buried in a pile of clean sand lay carrots, parsnips, cabbage and beets – all grown in our garden by me with the aid of the man who plowed the ground.  A barrel of apples stood near the cellar door and on the floor was a firkin of salt fish – snappers and porgies – I had caught in the bay and cleaned.  A layer of fish, a layer of salt – until the firkin was filled.  Food was no problem.”

Their cupboard was a lot better stocked than mine. Their menu was a lot healthier.  Cholesterol hadn’t even been invented yet.

All we could do with the preparations complete was pass the time as pleasantly as possible.  We read, we played Parcheesi, we listened as Mother read aloud from the Bible.  We planned meals that would be unusual and we kept warm.

“In the afternoon, Mother made crullers, letting Lotta and me cut little figures from the dough to fry in the hot fat; men, dogs and horses.  We made molasses taffy and pulled the dough into tasty sticks.  Cut off from the world, we had a happy day.  Just ourselves and Mother, so calm and unperturbed.

“The third day passed as had the first and second, the howling wind devils shrieking to each other from house corner and eaves.  Occasionally with a rumbling roar, the snow would crash from the rook like an avalanche, covering a window.

“Going to bed became a ritual.  I undressed in Mother’s room; that is, I took off my outer garments down to my woolen underwear and socks but no more.  Then I put on my flannel night shirts.  To help shut out the cold in my room where the temperature was below zero, we placed an extra feather bed as a coverlet upon my bed, although I already had one under my sheets.

“The one last thing before retiring, Mother asked us to kneel in prayer in her room.  When bedtime came, it was fun to share my cozy featherbed with my lively fox terrier who nosed his way into the depths beside me.

“Abruptly the morning of the fourth day broke clear and cold, with only a gently breeze.  The sun was unexpectedly warm.  The melting snow froze hard at night.  The next morning after seeing to my chickens, I put on my skates and sailed over fences, rode high on drifts and slid down valleys until at last the warming sun melted the crusted surface.

“Throughout those four days and nights, we went about our small tasks with a pleasurable sense of excitement.  We moved through the wild, white days and icy nights warmed by our Mother’s calm and absolute assurance.”

I thought about the calls from Dorothy and the kids, nice to know that they were there.

“God was with us within the snowbound walls of our farmhouse.  No harm could befall us.  The winsomeness and courage flowed from Mother and have ever remained in my heart and mind!”

I looked over at Rosie sound asleep, her nose still showing through the throw around her.

Time for bed.  I couldn’t stop thinking about the story I had just read.  Some things never change.  I let Rosie out the back door, now the lee side of the house.  The wind, if anything, had strengthened.  The house continued to shake.  The drifts were piling up.  Only two of the five steps leading down to the garden were still visible.  Rosie all but disappeared as she went about her business.  I toweled her off when she bounded back through the door and then put an extra duvet on the bed.

I sat and watched the storm out the window.  The water roiled, erupting in angry white caps matching the gusting wind and snow in intensity.  It was pitch black outside now, but from time to time, I could still see bits of wood and flotsam fly past the house.  Thankfully, nothing had broken a window.  Yet.

The lights flicked on and off again and then in an instant, the house went dark.  I felt around for the flashlight I had left on the kitchen counter and the matches.  I lit two candles and sat back to ponder my next step.

I could move from the bay cottage where I was now ensconced to the back house, “La Casa del Perro,” which had a working fireplace.  But it was a 400 foot walk down an icy boardwalk in blizzard conditions and, with my bad hip, I couldn’t take the chance.

Another option: I could call Dorothy on my cell phone and see if someone with a 4-wheel drive could try and make it down the beach to get me.  Candle in hand, I searched around for my coat and found my phone.  You idiot, I told myself.  I’d forgotten to recharge it.

Hip throbbing, I pulled myself upstairs and fumbled in the dark, retrieving three extra blankets from the blanket chest.  I limped back and spread them over the bed, then settled in for a very long night.

The house was insulated, but without working heaters, the temperature began to fall.  The portable, battery-operated radio gave periodic weather updates.  The forecast called for snow throughout the night, the outlook for tomorrow was now, at best, uncertain.

I tried to sleep, but couldn’t.  My hip ached, and I knew Dorothy and the kids would be beside themselves, since they couldn’t reach me on the landline or cell.  I thought of all the storms I’d weathered as a kid, here at the beach and on the mainland, including the hurricanes of 1936 and 1938.  I thought of all the rough nights at sea I’d experienced in the Navy.  But despite all that, I admit I was more than a little scared.

It’s one thing to be caught in a storm while at sea with your shipmates or at home with your family.  It’s another to be alone, over seventy, with a bum hip and no means of communication or provisions.

I decided to sit up for awhile.  The news updates signaled no change.  The temperature had dropped to the mid-teens, the wind gusting to 50 mph causing the snow to pile in huge drifts.  Power outages were reported throughout Nassau and Suffolk.

Despite the extra blankets, I began to shiver.  The house was bitterly cold now.  Don’t panic, I told myself.  The words from Gramp’s story came back to me…

We moved through the wild, white days and icy nights warmed by our Mother’s calm and absolute assurance…

“The winsomeness and courage flowed from Mother and have ever remained in my heart and mind!”

Calm, absolute assurance and courage.  If my widowed great-grandmother and her two small children could find the strength to weather a storm of such ferocity, surely so could I.

I thought of the three of them, alone and vulnerable, in their primitive farmhouse as I finally dozed off.

I woke up abruptly at 3:30am.  The TV was blaring. Lights blazed throughout the house.  The power had come back on.

I could see my breath in the house.  Rosie refused to get out of bed. For some inexplicable reason, she had nuzzled under the blankets and was by my feet.  She’d never done that before.  Maybe there was some fox terrier in her, after all!

The floor was ice cold, I could feel it through my socks.  I turned off the lights, adjusted the heater and radiator and jumped back into bed.  I decided not to wake Dorothy, I’d ring her in the morning. Rosie and I slept through uninterrupted until 7:30.

When we woke, the wind had dropped.  Snow covered everything.  The beautiful white blanket was interrupted only by two sets of deer tracks.  It was still – you could hear the quiet.

I called home.  Dorothy picked up the phone on the first ring. “Why didn’t you call?”  I explained.  Just as I’d imagined, she and the kids had been extremely worried.

I duplicated the exiting routine of the day before.  Rosie and I headed for the 1:55 boat.  This time, we made it. Walking on the slick patches of snow and ice turned the trip into an adventure of its own.  Normally a 20 minute walk, it took us well over an hour.  All I could think of was falling on the new hip.

If I had not left the copy of Gramp’s book, “Doctor On a Bicycle” in plain sight on the living room table during my previous trip, I might never have gotten to know my Great-Grandmother, Grandfather and Aunt Lotta as well as I did that day.  And, although I’m reluctant to admit it, I might not have gotten through that long, stormy night unscathed.

Sharing our adventures was an unexpected dividend.  I never met my Great-Grandmother; she died two years before I was born. Reading about her made me realize that Rosie and I would have fit right in. She would have clucked over us just as she did with Gramp and Aunt Lotta.

Though one hundred and seventeen years separated our two storms, for several hours during that long night, I felt as though we were all in the same room, as though time had collapsed and different generations had touched one another.

Maybe somehow they had. My one-day blizzard, March 8, 2005 had occurred almost exactly to the date of their blizzard, March 11-14, 1888. Eerily ironic, Gramp was born March 8, 1878.

George S.K. Rider

9/10/07

Action in Essex

Christmas approached like a runaway train and, with it, the year-end.  A look back at what it was like this time last year: the joy of the season was tempered by the impending departure of oldest grandchild Graham, Jr., now 13, for his second bone-lengthening operation shortly after the New Year.  Graham and mother Paulette left for the operation in West Palm Beach on December 27th and would not return home until mid-May.  The operations have been a great success, adding 6 inches to his height.  After a grueling rehab in Florida and learning how to walk again, we were thrilled with his grit and determination on his return home.  His hard work paid off.  On December 5th he participated in a 5K marathon, part of a fundraiser, in West Palm Beach for The Paley Foundation, founded by Graham’s surgeon, Dr. Dror Paley.  Graham and a girl his age who underwent the same operation walked the course and received medals and a lot of attention from the other competitors.  Never once has he complained about the odyssey or any aspect of the procedures.  He has also maintained his Honor Roll ranking while raking in a small fortune feeding and walking neighborhood dogs in their owners’ absence, and he is active in Boy Scouts and was confirmed in early January.

I was finishing up these observations and getting ready to post this update on my blog when I looked out the window by my desk overlooking the cul-du-sac at the head of our driveway.  STOP THE PRESSES!!!

To my astonishment (and more than a dash of apprehension), there before me were the other three grandchildren, Bradley, 11; Tory, 9; and Duncan, 8, playing their own version of lacrosse.  With Duncan manning the regulation-size lacrosse goal they had just placed on the circular roadway, Bradley and Tory were passing the ball back and forth on skateboards, taking turns firing at Duncan.  DO NOT TRY THIS!  My heart was in my mouth as I watched.  They continued for what seemed an eternity, taking turns in the goal.  I kept waiting for the inevitable as they jumped on and off the boards, sped toward the net and fired.  Finally, they tired.  Game!  Set!  Match!  God was with them.  No skinned elbows or knees!

Just as I breathed a sigh of relief, ACT II began to unfold.  Graham had been sitting on a bench at the head of their driveway watching the action and waiting for the carnage that never occurred.  Bradley and Tory came in looking for Grandma and the cookie jar.  I looked out again to see Duncan talking with Graham and handing him his skateboard.  OH NO!  I’m getting too old for this!  Graham put his left foot on the board, took a few quick steps with the right, placed it on the board and was off for a short spin, Duncan all the while instructing and cheering him on.  Several more rides, each one longer, and it was their turn to raid the cookie jar.  Hot cocoa all around!

What a difference a year makes!  I thought that being a parent was tough!

Me, all I could think of was a good stiff Scotch to calm my nerves.  No such luck… there was none in the house, plus which it was only 10:45am.

This past weekend was again grandchild-driven, but without the potential for disaster, a grandparents’ dream.  James Folts, retired Episcopal Bishop of West Texas, father of our rector, confirmed Graham, Jr. at Saint John’s Episcopal Church in Essex, CT.  Friday evening we watched Tory play her first basketball game.  Her team won 20-10.  She scored 14 points and had one assist.  Saturday, Duncan’s team won 16-8.  He assisted on all eight baskets.  Bradley’s team also won; he scored one basket, had 4 assists and pulled down a number of rebounds.  Three more games on tap this weekend.  Lots of football to watch and hockey will be back soon.  What more could anyone ask for.  Daughter Jenny is on her way here for lunch.  All is well in Essex!!  Please write and let me know how 2013 is treating you and your family!

George



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